What’s your style?
Style is a form of expression. Some enjoy flirty or romantic attire that includes floral, paisley, bright, shorter hems, higher splits or a daring cleavage accented with a heel that is made for the woman that may want to leave a little room for the imagination. However, there are many who would rather wear loose-fitting, formless clothing and shoes like Vans or flat loafers for all-day comfort. Then there's the world of modern fashion, where an alluring aesthetic known as "Confident Couture” chic has emerged as a result of the meeting point of effortless style and uncompromising self-confidence.
In my latest e-book, I delve deeper into the concept of the "Confident Couture" wardrobe. This style of dressing helps women—and especially single women—build a wardrobe that supports her inner feelings of self-worth at any given time, rather than one that is based purely on outward appearances. Which both are equally vital and often disregarded.
One of the errors women make is equating compliments from males on their outward appearance with self-worth, which is why society now places so much emphasis on enhancing physical features. If that is not an issue for you, then many individuals believe that acquiring financial and material possessions, obtaining a degree, or being in a relationship affirms their worth. Another big mistake.
There is no doubt that our gifts and talents will make room for us as we follow our interests with intention; it is a natural rule of success. However, how do you truly feel about yourself when no one is watching or praising you, or when you are not in a relationship?
We've all had those moments where we look back at old images and wonder, "What was I thinking when I put that on?" Or, even worse, why are you still wearing the sweater that your "ex-boyfriend" got you years ago and constantly praised you on? Or maybe you still wear the same dress or jacket from that old relationship, which may have ended abruptly leaving you emotionally drained, out of fear of letting go and holding on to memories that no longer serve you. As women, we must be willing to let go of certain things in order to make room for new opportunities, new people and new relationships. And, believe it or not, these behaviors begin in our minds and manifest in the clothes we wear and how we portray ourselves.
It's okay, though; trial and error are all part of the process of creating a wardrobe that reflects who we are, where we are, and where we want to go on this journey called life. But it is necessary that we eventually get it right, particularly as adults. Nothing is more unsettling than wearing inappropriate clothing that doesn’t match our age or that is the wrong color, size or ill-fitting because we refuse to update our closet for fear of change or just a lack of knowledge about how to change.
I can say so much more, but just focusing on the external aspect of Confident Couture in this blog, I will share the foundation of this chic look lies in the selection of key wardrobe staples that exude an air of confidence, uniqueness and natural style. A few of these pieces include fedoras, blazers, classic style pants or skirt and vintage style shoes that serve as the structural elements that anchor the ensemble, lending a sense of deliberate, yet understated, sophistication and style.
When it comes to personal style, consistency and authenticity is key. Whether one's aesthetic leans towards casual chic or something more polished, the overall look should be cohesive and thoughtfully executed. As the saying goes, "the devil is in the details," - this rings true when it comes to fashion and self-presentation. One of the primary reasons for maintaining a cohesive style is the message it conveys about the individual. Clothing and fashion choices are a form of self-expression, reflecting one's values, core traits, personality, and sense of identity. As such, it is important to ensure that all elements of an outfit work together harmoniously to present a unified and intentional image. In professional settings, where personal presentation can play a significant role in how one is perceived by colleagues and superiors, the cohesion of one's style becomes even more crucial.
There are numerous styles to choose from and cultivate for yourself. Bohemian, Business, Preppy, Artsy, Chic, Athleisure, Vintage—the list goes on. Whatever style you identify with and believe is most indicative of who you are in this season of your life, build on it, own it, and wear it confidently. "Confidence Couture-ly!" If you need some help from a Professional Image Stylist like myself to get you started, don't wait another day, week, month, or year. Make it happen for yourself today. It will be one of the most valuable personal investments you make in your lifetime.
So I'll end this blog by asking you one simple question:
What’s your style?